Every woman moves through seasons. Each one teaches her something the last one couldn't. This is the journey — every decade, every becoming.
The woman is manifesting, but her hormones are still unstable and need to be balanced. She needs to care for her body. She needs to learn to say no when something doesn't suit her, and to say yes when it feels right.
These things can't be taught — they are learned. Sometimes watched, often through a mother who knows her worth. If not, she will learn the hard way. But she will get there.
Young women are strongest when they have a support system — a mother, a grandmother, an aunt, a best friend, or even a mentor. She needs at least one. Just until she blooms.
She has started her journey, and her glass begins to fill — one attribute at a time. She learns to say please and thank you even when she would rather not. She learns that her mother is not so bad after all.
She starts to wonder if the man she's with is the right one. Or whether she will ever find her soul mate at all.
If she chooses to marry and grow a family, it may be a few dogs, a hamster, and a few kids. Or she may not be able to have children — and so she settles into life with just a spouse, or with herself. She may adopt if it is her calling.
These are all her choices. And this is her time.
She starts a life outside of being a wife, a daughter, a mother. She finds she has more to offer the world than what she has been given. Her areas of growth start to show, and she may feel guilty for letting go.
She lets new friendships grow. She is okay being alone. Her husband may notice her becoming distant — but don't worry. Menopause will be over before he knows it.
She may start to wonder — what do I do now? Sex becomes a chore, and she may decide it isn't so fun anymore.
Her children are grown, or growing up. She can be by herself again — but she may not want to be. She feels her life has gone by so fast.
What will life look like as she gets older? Will anyone care about her? Will she still be beautiful to the person she loves? If she is starting over again, will she find someone who loves her and sees beauty in her age — with lines and wrinkles?
Will her children invite her for visits? So many changes — and so many quiet questions.
She has won the race — an older woman, wiser, more beautiful as the days go by. Her cares now are different. She thinks about the legacy of her thoughts, her heart, her mind.
Will she be remembered? And if so — for how long? Will the ripples and effects of her life fade, or will she leave a thumbprint on the family she will one day leave behind?
Has her health been strong enough that she can take care of herself? Or does the worry of being a burden quietly follow her?
It all comes down to one thing: did she care for herself so that she could have a quality of life worth living? Did she care enough for herself to honor her most important purpose on earth — to love, and to be loved?
Whichever era you find yourself in — BloomHer is here to walk it with you.
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